Comments on: Women coming out of the woodwork http://transabled.org/thoughts/women-coming-out-of-the-woodwork.htm Talking about Body Integrity Identity Disorder - Just another disability! Mon, 01 Dec 2008 20:16:46 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7-beta2 hourly 1 By: Sandy http://transabled.org/thoughts/women-coming-out-of-the-woodwork.htm/comment-page-1#comment-657 Sandy Mon, 29 Jan 2007 12:39:08 +0000 http://transabled.org/thoughts/women-coming-out-of-the-woodwork.htm#comment-657 So I am one of those women who joined your "harem" a few months ago. Good that you make it very clear that there not more than e-mail and interaction on the net. Maybe Marie is right. Men are often more proficient and started earlier exploring the Internet than woman. I think most transabled persons don't find your site or others because they are not looking for it. They just have no clue that this community exists. I had been surfing the Internet for almost 10 years and eventually found your site last August "par harzard". Yes, it would be interesting to know how many of us are out there. So I am one of those women who joined your “harem” a few months ago. Good that you make it very clear that there not more than e-mail and interaction on the net. Maybe Marie is right. Men are often more proficient and started earlier exploring the Internet than woman. I think most transabled persons don’t find your site or others because they are not looking for it. They just have no clue that this community exists. I had been surfing the Internet for almost 10 years and eventually found your site last August “par harzard”. Yes, it would be interesting to know how many of us are out there.

]]> By: Marie http://transabled.org/thoughts/women-coming-out-of-the-woodwork.htm/comment-page-1#comment-633 Marie Sun, 28 Jan 2007 03:07:10 +0000 http://transabled.org/thoughts/women-coming-out-of-the-woodwork.htm#comment-633 One must also bear in mind the gap in the number of women and men that are proficient enough with computers to make theirselves known. I think that as the generation behind mine (I'm in my mid-twenties) begins to shed the inbred "no that's wrong! you can't feel that way!" feeling and begin to think for theirselves they will be proficient enough with technology to post blogs and make theirselves known (men and women). One must also bear in mind the gap in the number of women and men that are proficient enough with computers to make theirselves known.

I think that as the generation behind mine (I’m in my mid-twenties) begins to shed the inbred “no that’s wrong! you can’t feel that way!” feeling and begin to think for theirselves they will be proficient enough with technology to post blogs and make theirselves known (men and women).

]]> By: Sean http://transabled.org/thoughts/women-coming-out-of-the-woodwork.htm/comment-page-1#comment-625 Sean Sat, 27 Jan 2007 20:58:44 +0000 http://transabled.org/thoughts/women-coming-out-of-the-woodwork.htm#comment-625 John, I believe that I've only been in touch with a relatively small fraction. I know for a fact that there is a relatively big and active community of amputee wannabes out there, the vast majority of whom have never been in touch with me. But even if all the amp wannabes and other wannabes that are online were in touch with me, I think there's still tons of people out there sharing our feelings that either don't know they aren't alone, or don't want to get in touch for whatever reason. As to generalisations, please note I said it FELT like, not that is actually was :) John, I believe that I’ve only been in touch with a relatively small fraction. I know for a fact that there is a relatively big and active community of amputee wannabes out there, the vast majority of whom have never been in touch with me. But even if all the amp wannabes and other wannabes that are online were in touch with me, I think there’s still tons of people out there sharing our feelings that either don’t know they aren’t alone, or don’t want to get in touch for whatever reason.

As to generalisations, please note I said it FELT like, not that is actually was :)

]]> By: Sean http://transabled.org/thoughts/women-coming-out-of-the-woodwork.htm/comment-page-1#comment-624 Sean Sat, 27 Jan 2007 20:56:29 +0000 http://transabled.org/thoughts/women-coming-out-of-the-woodwork.htm#comment-624 Someone commented to me in private: "Bull shit ... no way to tell if more women are para wannabes than amps ... besides, look at the most famous of today's realized wannabes ... Lily !!! We are dealing with such small numbers that each time we make generalizations it's more likely wrong than right (and that is a generalization as well !!!)" Someone commented to me in private: “Bull shit … no way to tell if more women are para wannabes than amps … besides, look at the most famous of today’s realized wannabes … Lily !!! We are dealing with such small numbers that each time we make generalizations it’s more likely wrong than right (and that is a generalization as well !!!)”

]]> By: John http://transabled.org/thoughts/women-coming-out-of-the-woodwork.htm/comment-page-1#comment-616 John Sat, 27 Jan 2007 07:47:28 +0000 http://transabled.org/thoughts/women-coming-out-of-the-woodwork.htm#comment-616 Sean, Sometimes I wonder just how many transabled there are in the world. Fifteen-twenty years ago I thought that I was the only guy who needed to become a paraplegic. Thanks to the net and you it has become possible to encounter others. Even with all the need-to-be-paras or amps that you have found through this site, we still seem to be pretty rare creatures. Do you think that you have uncovered a large fraction of the total or are there, maybe, a lot more who just don't want to admit or talk about their desire because it is so different? Sean,
Sometimes I wonder just how many transabled there are in the world. Fifteen-twenty years ago I thought that I was the only guy who needed to become a paraplegic. Thanks to the net and you it has become possible to encounter others.
Even with all the need-to-be-paras or amps that you have found through this site, we still seem to be pretty rare creatures.
Do you think that you have uncovered a large fraction of the total or are there, maybe, a lot more who just don’t want to admit or talk about their desire because it is so different?

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