Comments on: What’s next: study or not?

By: Sophie

Sophie — Sat, 02 Sep 2006 00:42:56 +0000

For a while I entertained the idea of doing a computer degree at the local polytech…I didn’t know how I’d do in programming so I kinda shelved the idea. To be honest I’d be more than happy if I ended up with some computery job for the rest of my life.

By: Sean

Sean — Fri, 01 Sep 2006 23:48:53 +0000

At the risk of making it seem like we’re picking on you (which maybe we are, but because we care for you), I have to ask:

What if you were a para?

What then? What would you do with yourself? Sit around all day and think ‘Oh good, I’m a para’? Have you considered that you just might actually get your wish? And if getting a job as an unskilled, unqualified non-disabled person is tough, getting a job as an unskilled, unqualified disabled person is next to impossible.

By: Jen

Jen — Fri, 01 Sep 2006 23:38:49 +0000

Pick one. Go back to the one that most appealed to you in childhood. Take it. Master it.

Here’s a little exercise for you to do - take a piece of paper and write your current age on one line. Now on each line under that, add one. Say to yourself, someday, I will be thirty years old…I will be thirty five years old…I will be fifty years old.

If you dawdle, if you can’t make up your mind, if you cannot make a stand now, you will one day be fifty-one years old, with no real home, with no profession, with no life except a chair. You will feel just as friendless and poor unless you start to do something about it now. Right now.

You must put a stake in the ground. It’s your life. Do you get it? It’s your LIFE. This is all you get. If you don’t use it, you’ll waste it. It’s no one else’s. It’s not your mother’s or father’s. It’s yours. Own it. Use it. Fill it up.

When you choose, you cannot make a wrong decision. You can’t. But you must choose.

By: Sophie

Sophie — Fri, 01 Sep 2006 01:07:58 +0000

I honestly don’t know what I want to do in 5 years beyond wheeling in a nice new wheelchair, preferably after getting an SCI. There are lots of things I have my finger dipped into but at this point I don’t know which one to persue.

By: Jen

Jen — Thu, 31 Aug 2006 21:46:14 +0000

Push back. Heaven help you, girl, if you let people push you around now, they will never stop.

What do you want to do? What do you think will matter most to you in five months? In five years? Even scarier, fifteen years? Yes, they will happen.

Follow it through logically - if you keep on doing what you’re doing now, what’s the logical result in five years?

By: Sophie

Sophie — Thu, 31 Aug 2006 07:51:11 +0000

cmon, practise what you preach, stop your whinging :P

I didn’t mean that you told me to do it, you get my drift, you “suggested” I do it.

By: Sean

Sean — Thu, 31 Aug 2006 07:31:54 +0000

FWIW, I did not tell Sophie she should go back to school. I don\’t tell people they should do something or not. I merely pointed out that unskilled and unqualified people are unlikely to find long term, sustainable jobs that pay a half-decent wage, and in which they are going to be happy. And it\’s not when you turn 35 or 40, or 45 that you are at your best in terms of studying…

And Sophie, if you know that in the end you\’ll just go back to school, why not bypass the whinging? :)

Yes, it\’s scary. Very. I know. As they say: \”Feel the fear and to it anyway\” ;)