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Too quiet v Too loud!
Written by Sophie on Saturday, December 16, 2006
I’ve been really noticing some changes lately in myself at work. I’ve always been a very direct person. I speak my mind without wasting too much time tiptoeing round. People argue that I’m not terribly politically correct, and some have said it’s a refreshing thing to see in a world of people who are constantly worried about what others think. Despite being a direct person I’ve always been rather shy, that is until I started to wheel full time. Being in my chair has helped me to realign who I feel I am meant to be.
It has given me more social confidence and the ability to be more vocal…except other people in my training group have said they have found me opinionated, condescending and extremely direct. They have certainly taken to heart the things that I have said. Watching what I say has been a problem I have struggled with for a long time. When I hear someone say something that I know is wrong I simply have to argue with them. I find things hard to let go. Getting these warnings at work has made me wonder why God gifted me with these traits. Do they have any positive benefits at all?
I have exactly the same personality as my father. We are often a volatile combination when we differ in opinion. Yet this is something that has drawn us closer together. We are sometimes able to communicate on a much deeper level, and I have found my dad struggles with the same social problems as me. I wonder if it is just me seeking parental approval but I have always been very proud of the fact that I can say I take after my father. People online sometimes tell me I’m too much of a wuss and I don’t voice my opinion when I need to, but people in real life say I am too vocal. Where is the point in between? How can I really judge who I am?
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1 On 16 December, 2006, Elizabeth said:
I guess you just have to pick and choose your battles-I used to be the “pitbull” who, once I grabbed onto something, couldn’t let go until it was dead in my eyes. (Which usually involved the other person giving in or running away!) Now I realize that most things aren’t battles. I’m opinionated about what I am passionate about; social injustice, human rights, the treatment of animals and children, etc., etc., etc. As far as arguing with people, I often look at the source and evaluate whether or not it’s worth my time. Usually it’s not, and as long as I know I’m right :) who cares? (My motto is: I refuse to engage in a battle of wits with an unarmed person.)