Comments on: Talking to mum http://transabled.org/thoughts/talking-to-mum.htm Talking about Body Integrity Identity Disorder - Just another disability! Fri, 21 Nov 2008 11:59:31 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7-beta2 hourly 1 By: Sophie http://transabled.org/thoughts/talking-to-mum.htm/comment-page-1#comment-290 Sophie Tue, 21 Nov 2006 04:06:54 +0000 http://transabled.org/thoughts/talking-to-mum.htm#comment-290 unfortunately my parents are too involved in my life, and I'm too young for them to buy my lie. Telling them was a necessary evil. unfortunately my parents are too involved in my life, and I’m too young for them to buy my lie. Telling them was a necessary evil.

]]> By: Claire http://transabled.org/thoughts/talking-to-mum.htm/comment-page-1#comment-289 Claire Mon, 20 Nov 2006 02:34:14 +0000 http://transabled.org/thoughts/talking-to-mum.htm#comment-289 Sean, your mom loves you and I'm sure that it will all work out. I'll pray that it does. As a mother myself, I know that in the end all we really want is for our kids to be happy. I'm going through something somewhat similar with my mother, but I haven't told my parents that I'm transabled and I never will. But the last 6 weeks or so of dealing with being transabled have consumed a lot of the time I might have spent talking to my mom or emailing her. I have 30 years of being transabled to catch up with, after all. She wants to know where I've been, and I just can't tell her. She wants to know what I've been doing, and I can't tell her. She wants to know how I feel, and I can't tell her. Our last conversation was rather strained because there was so much I just had to hold back from her. I don't think I can ever tell her, because she would probably feel responsible and guilty, and I don't want that. (see my story at http://transabled.org/stories/but-its-not-the-disability-i-wanted.htm for why that might be) So she'll never know, and if I do eventually go full time, then she's going to get the same lie that I tell everyone else. :o( Sean, your mom loves you and I’m sure that it will all work out. I’ll pray that it does. As a mother myself, I know that in the end all we really want is for our kids to be happy.

I’m going through something somewhat similar with my mother, but I haven’t told my parents that I’m transabled and I never will. But the last 6 weeks or so of dealing with being transabled have consumed a lot of the time I might have spent talking to my mom or emailing her. I have 30 years of being transabled to catch up with, after all. She wants to know where I’ve been, and I just can’t tell her. She wants to know what I’ve been doing, and I can’t tell her. She wants to know how I feel, and I can’t tell her. Our last conversation was rather strained because there was so much I just had to hold back from her.

I don’t think I can ever tell her, because she would probably feel responsible and guilty, and I don’t want that. (see my story at http://transabled.org/stories/but-its-not-the-disability-i-wanted.htm for why that might be) So she’ll never know, and if I do eventually go full time, then she’s going to get the same lie that I tell everyone else. :o(

]]> By: Sophie http://transabled.org/thoughts/talking-to-mum.htm/comment-page-1#comment-288 Sophie Sun, 19 Nov 2006 08:07:06 +0000 http://transabled.org/thoughts/talking-to-mum.htm#comment-288 I struggle with that with my mum too. She thinks I'm a lazy little so and so who has no initiative whatsoever. I can't tell her about all the new skills etc I've gained through this part of my life. I struggle with that with my mum too. She thinks I’m a lazy little so and so who has no initiative whatsoever. I can’t tell her about all the new skills etc I’ve gained through this part of my life.

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