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Transability and sexuality

Written by Sean on Saturday, July 31, 2004

What part of my feelings are sexual, and is it right to define my "label" around sexuality? So many people seem to automatically associate transability with sexuality. That is, people think that the main reason for people to want/need to be disabled is sexual in nature. To be fair, it appears that for many people, the sexual aspect is very important.

I question that though. There are quite people I know who seem to associate being disabled as being arousing. But they seem more interested in pretending than actually being disabled (pretender vs transabled). For more transabled, it seems that it’s not about sexuality, it’s about something else. What? Hard to say, but not primarly sexual.

In my quest for finding a proper therapist to help me with these feelings, I’ve been bounced around quite a bit. The first therapist I went to when I first realised I wasn’t alone, and that perhaps it would be a good idea to discuss all this immediately referred me to a sexologist. I never went, because this is not a sexual thing for me.

It is easy to get confused, for sure. I love braces, and they do have a very strong sexual impact on me. However, it isn’t the brace in its relation to disability that turns me on. It’s the brace in relation

But for those of us who want to be paraplegics because they think it’s a sexual turn on, we should really keep in mind that if we do become paralysed, we in fact lose sexual functions as we know them! Amputees transabled don’t have that issue, of course :)

So, I know that were I to become a para, having sex would take a hugely different form than it takes now. But that isn’t an issue for me, because sex is not the motive behind my feelings.

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