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Female to Male Transsexuals
Written by Sean on Monday, October 10, 2005
I was watching a current affairs show on TV tonight, and they had a segment about Female to Male transsexuals. Rather well done actually. The show focused around two individuals that were well into transitioning.
One was in his forties, and had been in a lesbian relationship before his transition. His partner is still with him. Apparently his parents don’t talk to him, and a lot of their friends also stopped talking to them. The Lesbian Community took it as a bit of betrayal that she’d become him. Sad how society is so intolerant. Even segments of society that are so used to be discriminated against turn around and become intolerant. It never ceases to amaze me.
In contrast, the other one’s family was really accepting. They were taking an attitude that they really couldn’t do a thing about it other than accept it. They preferred to keep a son/brother than lose their progeny/sibling. That seems like a decent family. Of course, we don’t know what goes on behind closed doors, and there might be all kind of unhealthy family secrets, but who knows?
What struck me from the show, however, was how happy both those individuals appeared. They seemed to have a good head on their shoulders, have done a lot of thinking ahead of transitioning, and be happy in their transition, despite the unavoidable problems one is doomed to encounter in such a major change in life.
I watched the 10 minutes segment and couldn’t help to be incredibly envious of both of them. The older one was 40, and had started transition 3 years ago. This is about the same age range I’m in just now. But then, I started my “transition” ten years ago. Is it ever going to reach the point of no return? Though that concept is not the right one. I have reached the point of no return. The thing is, I haven’t done anything that couldn’t be reversed. Both those FtM transsexuals had started testosterone and had been on it for a while. They don’t know for sure what the long term impact of injecting testosterone is. The one thing they know: Once you start, you can’t go back!
But they were happy. Comfortable in who and what they were, after decades of feeling in the wrong body. Ohh, how I would like to be able to say that, I’m finally comfortable in my own skin, that my body finally matches my self-image. I’m certainly nowhere near that for now.
But all this talk about transsexuals reminds me of a discussion I had a few months ago with someone who’s transabled, studying psychology, who disagreed with me about the relationship between transabled and transsexual. I’ve been meaning to continue this discussion with her, to understand why she disagrees. I’m obviously not a psychologist (nor do I play one on tv!), so I’m liable to be missing some (important) details and differences. So I hope to be able to connect with you (if you’re reading this) and talk about it a little more.
Because I just can’t seem to get my mind out of the headspace that there are more similarities than differences between Gender identity disorder and body identity integrity disorder. It still seems to me one of the best approaches to get significant advances in helping us get where we want.
That said, nothing’s helped me get very close to what I want, eh?
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