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Emotional honesty

Written by Sean on Thursday, September 4, 2008

Julia mentionned something to me in an email recently about "emotional honesty". I may have talked about this already, I don’t recall. As I was soaking in the bath, I thought about this topic. With me, what you see is what you get. I don’t play games.

This site, email and some instant messenging are the only place where I can really be myself and express what I feel, how I feel, who I am.

I may be changing a fact here or there. I might not give my real name. I am a bit vague about some details of my life. But that is "fluff", unimportant data. The important core is all real, honest. Integrity is important to me.

This place really is the only place where I can be myself, and so I am. In the "real world", I have to lie. I avoid lying as much as I can, but it is sometimes unavoidable. I am telling a lie to live my truth, because society isn’t ready to handle nor accept BIID.

I think a majority of people participating here are also honest in that sense. This is good.

Unfortunately, there are a few people who occasionaly play games. They are, to use a crass colloquialism, shitting in their own backyard. It saddens me that they see the need to do this here. This is the only place where they could discuss these issues openly. But they don’t. Their loss. We just have to be careful not to invest ourselves too much with people who send us bad vibes.

And then, we can open up with the people who *are* willing to open up right back. We can share of our experiences and learn from others’. We can support one another, and help ourselves through the darkness surrounding us.

It’s one of the reasons I blog. It’s good for me to be able to reflect and "vent". But it is also good for me to know that other people might benefit from my experiences and my thoughts. It would defeat the purpose if I was not honest with my emotions.

Tags: BIID, Emotional, Emotions, Honesty, Integrity