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BIID Surgery, GID Transition, and After-Effects
Written by Sean on Tuesday, March 17, 2009
A few days ago, I was pointed out to a couple pages that really hit me hard. They were written by the spouse of a MtF transsexual, who explains why she remained in the relationship. I’m very glad to hear that so far, things are going well for them. I’m glad that Anita has managed to be open minded and they are working things out. But some of the things she said really hit close to home for me.
Here are the two pages in question:
One of the things that really struck me is the amount of love in the relationship, and the fact that Anita realised that her spouse was the same person regardless of gender. Only as a woman, Terri was more outgoing, more friendly, able to just have fun. Anita writes:
"I find it rather interesting that something that I would not wish on my worst enemy has actually turned out rather well. I really like being with Terri. I look forward to the weekends because I know that we will do things together. With all the bottled up anger and frustration gone, now that she is no longer hiding herself from the world, we just have a lot of fun and enjoy the simple things in life."
I know a spinal cord transection would not resolve all my "dark stuff". But from what I hear from everyone who has finally "beaten" BIID through surgery or self-injury, the anger is gone, the demon is tamed. I don’t want to suddenly and "magically" be all "happy happy joy joy". But I’d like the opportunity to be myself, without that big-ass chain and ball welded to my ankle that I must drag everywhere.
I know I can be a burden on my loved ones and my friends. I wish I could have that, so I could enjoy the simple things in life with them.
What would my world look like without frustration, pain and anger?
Tags: Anger, BIID, Frustration, GID, Surgery
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1 On 17 March, 2009, cath said:
Wow – they’re both so lucky to have wach other.