Don’t worry about it. Really. The T community has so many strata of levels, each of whom look down on others, it could make your head hurt.

I pass, but I’m scum as well to some TSes, because I’m stealth — there are more points for being able to pass but choosing not to.

It all appears to be about how much it annoys other people.

Being gender variant in private is bad; being “in their face and proud” is good.

Paying for reassignment privately; bad. Fighting the NHS into paying for it; good.

Changing your job during transition; bad. Making people accept you, kicking up a fuss about the use of names and so on; that’s good.

That sort of thing.

It’s one of the reasons I left the community — because towards the end of my time there, it became apparent that many people wanted to play this points scoring game; working out constantly who they were “better than” instead of actually helping anyone.

In general, the TVs I’ve met are much better balanced than TSes. I think it is because they’re in the T community because they want to be; they’re happy there. They’re fixing their damage by being there.

Whereas TSes are in the community because they have to be, but don’t want to be – most TSes don’t want to be TS; they want to be the gender they’re trying to be. And being in the T community is making them worse, not better.