Comments on: On a more positive note… http://transabled.org/thoughts/other-thoughts/zoes-thoughts/on-a-more-positive-note.htm Talking about Body Integrity Identity Disorder - Just another disability! Sat, 11 Feb 2012 19:50:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.1 By: Brice http://transabled.org/thoughts/other-thoughts/zoes-thoughts/on-a-more-positive-note.htm/comment-page-1#comment-16273 Brice Fri, 14 Nov 2008 19:18:25 +0000 http://transabled.org/?p=928#comment-16273 I really think most people simply can't fathom that someone who seems otherwise quite perfectly sane and balanced would feel a need to acquire an impairment. Maybe scares them about what might be lurking in the remote corners of the minds of other people they know. I really think most people simply can’t fathom that someone who seems otherwise quite perfectly sane and balanced would feel a need to acquire an impairment. Maybe scares them about what might be lurking in the remote corners of the minds of other people they know.

]]> By: Chloe http://transabled.org/thoughts/other-thoughts/zoes-thoughts/on-a-more-positive-note.htm/comment-page-1#comment-16270 Chloe Thu, 13 Nov 2008 21:52:55 +0000 http://transabled.org/?p=928#comment-16270 I think Sean has hit on a fundamental flaw in society which greatly impedes our being accepted. A large majority of friends I have told about my BIID have been understanding, compassionate, and supportive. The two friends I have lost over this clearly had a very negative view of disability in general. I think Sean has hit on a fundamental flaw in society which greatly impedes our being accepted. A large majority of friends I have told about my BIID have been understanding, compassionate, and supportive. The two friends I have lost over this clearly had a very negative view of disability in general.

]]> By: Sean http://transabled.org/thoughts/other-thoughts/zoes-thoughts/on-a-more-positive-note.htm/comment-page-1#comment-16265 Sean Thu, 13 Nov 2008 18:36:34 +0000 http://transabled.org/?p=928#comment-16265 I think part of the issue here is that there is such a negative bias against disabilities, it is so deeply rooted in people, even many who have disabilities themselves that it becomes a highly emotional topic. And it's so emotional that most people are unable to access the logical, thinking part of their brain. They shortcircuit the process and go straight to "whoooaaa, no way". I think part of the issue here is that there is such a negative bias against disabilities, it is so deeply rooted in people, even many who have disabilities themselves that it becomes a highly emotional topic. And it’s so emotional that most people are unable to access the logical, thinking part of their brain. They shortcircuit the process and go straight to “whoooaaa, no way”.

]]> By: Claire http://transabled.org/thoughts/other-thoughts/zoes-thoughts/on-a-more-positive-note.htm/comment-page-1#comment-16263 Claire Thu, 13 Nov 2008 13:40:16 +0000 http://transabled.org/?p=928#comment-16263 Thanks for that, Zoe. This is what I want for us. I want for us to examine why we feel what we feel, and why we do what we do...and really think about whether it is right or wrong. On the surface, it all just seems so wrong, pretending, and wanting to be disabled. And, really, in a perfect world, it shouldn't be. But if this is all the result of an illness - as indeed research is showing that it is - then there is more going on than what appears on the surface. I care, very, very much, what the world thinks of us, both the disabled community and the world at large. Sometimes I just want to scream, "Okay, so it's weird, but just LISTEN to me!" I'm not right in the head, and I'm trying to fix that, but until I do, I need to wheel, to be as right in the head as possible. Just allow me that. But they won't, you know, because they haven't educated themselves, or examined their beliefs. Maybe they haven't had the chance to. It takes a long time to get there. Thanks for that, Zoe.

This is what I want for us. I want for us to examine why we feel what we feel, and why we do what we do…and really think about whether it is right or wrong.

On the surface, it all just seems so wrong, pretending, and wanting to be disabled. And, really, in a perfect world, it shouldn’t be. But if this is all the result of an illness – as indeed research is showing that it is – then there is more going on than what appears on the surface.

I care, very, very much, what the world thinks of us, both the disabled community and the world at large. Sometimes I just want to scream, “Okay, so it’s weird, but just LISTEN to me!” I’m not right in the head, and I’m trying to fix that, but until I do, I need to wheel, to be as right in the head as possible. Just allow me that. But they won’t, you know, because they haven’t educated themselves, or examined their beliefs. Maybe they haven’t had the chance to.

It takes a long time to get there.

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