I have to come you as a strong independent woman. ”

I meant: “I have come to view you as a strong independent woman.”

I have to come you as a strong independent woman. Like you, I had a difficult time while living at home with my parents. They could not understand why I enjoyed the online community. Now, I realize the answer: we feed off each other’s emotions. When we are down, we gain inspiration from friends who have been down the same roads.

I am sorry many of us had parents who were unattentive to our needs… but I am not sorry for the strength that was created within us.

You are a strong woman, Sophie. Getting back into the arts helps me feel better about myself.

I have not been too happy lately due to the nasty weather. Yesterday I decided to unpack my painting/art box and aet them up. I am now able to paint while it snows outside.

We are strong women with purposes. Keep your chin up. :) Things always work out in the end.

Pay special attention to the second verse.

When I was still living at home, espectually following the 6 months of hell when my parents tried to “fix” me, I constantly became a computer rat. I really already was one as I loved games and the internet, but even more so then because I wanted so bad to be social online and to exist in the online world.

My mother, espectually, didn’t understand my constant desire to be on the computer at all, in fact it quite angered her all the time. In her controlling manner she, like your mum, used to get on to me and nag about how much time I spent sitting around the house. Yes it is very highly upsetting to have your parents do this to you, but the thing is, they simply don’t understand (on so many levels)

In their day and age computers didn’t exist and it wasn’t “normal” for people to be attached to a object and exist in front of it constantly, so to them it seams as though it is a unhealthy thing when really it is not. Hopefully you can just do what I did and take a break for a day or two to appease them, but then go right on about your own bussiness and it will just blow over without any problems.

Sorry to hear about you not being able to dance anymore…:( I was actually thinking about you doing that last night as I listed to the British Invasion radio special this weekend on the radio.

-Wheelman

I don’t want to get involved in any bible study groups or things like that as they tend to be quite intimate and I don’t want to end up lying to people in that sort of setting. I wouldn’t feel right with God doing that.

Thank you for your advice Claire and I’m definitely listening to you. I just have to find a hobby I can do that doesn’t require me to stand for hours on end, doesn’t use computers and doesn’t cost money.

I know it’s a lot to hang on one goal but I genuinely think I’ll make a better attempt at being a decent member of society once I leave home and start studying. I just don’t want to rush that process and then end up back here cuz I didn’t prep for it properly.

Trust me on this one! Get out of the frigging house, you will feel better, and home will not keep you down quite so much. Really. :o)

I think you should talk to her and maybe make her realize she needs to lighten up. I dunno. I’m probably not the best person to give advice, am I? x)

As for me, I’d say let the crazy out. So your father is a bit of a wimp and doesn’t want the boat to rock. Maybe what the family needs is a wake up call. Sometimes, we have to stand up to bullies (and I’m trying to listen to my own advice, never fear).

We all do care about you.

Your mother is essentially right, Sophie. It’s just a shame that she chose to discuss it in such a way as to annoy the hell out of you rather than being supporting and encouraging. :o( Don’t let your feelings for her and her methods get in the way of recognizing the wisdom that’s in what she says.