Comments on: If Only for a Moment http://transabled.org/thoughts/if-only-for-a-moment.htm Talking about Body Integrity Identity Disorder - Just another disability! Sat, 10 Jan 2009 01:40:11 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7-beta2 hourly 1 By: Eric http://transabled.org/thoughts/if-only-for-a-moment.htm/comment-page-1#comment-4671 Eric Mon, 18 Jun 2007 08:02:46 +0000 http://transabled.org/thoughts/if-only-for-a-moment.htm#comment-4671 Hi Sean. As you're familiar, I am having some thoughts about that, and considering all the options. We have been under a lot of stress because of our move, and we are not living in an accessible place when it comes to chair use, so even if I were desiring to use one around the house, it would be difficult. We have lots of stairs. Also, it's so stressful to move anyway, and she's not been the nicest person to me lately--she's feeling pretty crappy. So while the days go by and as it gets harder, I just have to wait until I can approach her without all the added stress of this move affecting everything we do. It's been the move from hell. Hi Sean. As you’re familiar, I am having some thoughts about that, and considering all the options. We have been under a lot of stress because of our move, and we are not living in an accessible place when it comes to chair use, so even if I were desiring to use one around the house, it would be difficult. We have lots of stairs. Also, it’s so stressful to move anyway, and she’s not been the nicest person to me lately–she’s feeling pretty crappy. So while the days go by and as it gets harder, I just have to wait until I can approach her without all the added stress of this move affecting everything we do. It’s been the move from hell.

]]> By: Sean http://transabled.org/thoughts/if-only-for-a-moment.htm/comment-page-1#comment-4670 Sean Mon, 18 Jun 2007 07:41:27 +0000 http://transabled.org/thoughts/if-only-for-a-moment.htm#comment-4670 Eric, eBay is a good source of affordable second hand chairs. I would suggest you don't buy a brand new chair 'till you've spent quite some time using a "cheaper" one, so you get a feel for what your chair feels like and you can get to learn what you like/dislike and how you want a good chair to be setup. As for talking to your fiancée, the longer you wait, the harder it'll be. I'd certainly do it BEFORE the wedding. Eric, eBay is a good source of affordable second hand chairs. I would suggest you don’t buy a brand new chair ’till you’ve spent quite some time using a “cheaper” one, so you get a feel for what your chair feels like and you can get to learn what you like/dislike and how you want a good chair to be setup.

As for talking to your fiancée, the longer you wait, the harder it’ll be. I’d certainly do it BEFORE the wedding.

]]> By: Eric http://transabled.org/thoughts/if-only-for-a-moment.htm/comment-page-1#comment-4669 Eric Mon, 18 Jun 2007 07:04:31 +0000 http://transabled.org/thoughts/if-only-for-a-moment.htm#comment-4669 Hi Claire. Thanks for the good word. I am still waiting to get a chair, but I have not spoken to my fiancee about it yet. I perhaps will, I perhaps won't. I haven't decided yet. Meanwhile, I am hurriedly trying to find a decent one that won't cost me a couple grand... money we don't have. I hope that I can someday find a happy medium. Hi Claire. Thanks for the good word. I am still waiting to get a chair, but I have not spoken to my fiancee about it yet. I perhaps will, I perhaps won’t. I haven’t decided yet. Meanwhile, I am hurriedly trying to find a decent one that won’t cost me a couple grand… money we don’t have. I hope that I can someday find a happy medium.

]]> By: Claire http://transabled.org/thoughts/if-only-for-a-moment.htm/comment-page-1#comment-4587 Claire Mon, 11 Jun 2007 14:32:23 +0000 http://transabled.org/thoughts/if-only-for-a-moment.htm#comment-4587 Eric, those moments will hold you over for a while. It reminds me of when I first got my own chair and I was happy just to sit in it. And then I wanted to wheel around my home office in it. And then I wanted to wheel a bit around the house with it. And then I wanted to drive to a town 2 hours away and spend 2 days in it. And then I wanted to cross the continent and spend a week in it. And then I wanted to spend a lifetime in it. It never ends. Keep writing, it helps. Eric, those moments will hold you over for a while. It reminds me of when I first got my own chair and I was happy just to sit in it. And then I wanted to wheel around my home office in it. And then I wanted to wheel a bit around the house with it. And then I wanted to drive to a town 2 hours away and spend 2 days in it. And then I wanted to cross the continent and spend a week in it. And then I wanted to spend a lifetime in it. It never ends. Keep writing, it helps.

]]> By: Brice http://transabled.org/thoughts/if-only-for-a-moment.htm/comment-page-1#comment-4538 Brice Thu, 07 Jun 2007 18:17:58 +0000 http://transabled.org/thoughts/if-only-for-a-moment.htm#comment-4538 My two cents: I think your mind is telling you in your sleep what you may fear to address in the waking world, that you need to come clean with your fiancee about your BIID. If it's going to be an issue, better now than later, for both of you. My two cents: I think your mind is telling you in your sleep what you may fear to address in the waking world, that you need to come clean with your fiancee about your BIID. If it’s going to be an issue, better now than later, for both of you.

]]> By: rorschach http://transabled.org/thoughts/if-only-for-a-moment.htm/comment-page-1#comment-4537 rorschach Thu, 07 Jun 2007 05:46:37 +0000 http://transabled.org/thoughts/if-only-for-a-moment.htm#comment-4537 I'm assuming that you work as a night watchmen of sorts? I have done similar work, and have had the same experiences with the wheelchair my job had on hand. A lot of TA people seem to, at least sometimes, have their desires aggravated by stress. Sean had an interesting blog about a therapy session which, to me at least, suggested that in some way this is, in part, a coping mechanism. Regarding dreams... There are many theories on the function and purpose of dreams, though no single theory is currently accepted (in America at least). One of the better backed theories suggests that one function of dreams is fantasy fulfillment. I would posit that this is possibly what your dream was. Perhaps though you are disturbed due to your lack of familiarity with your desires. That's my $ 0.02. I’m assuming that you work as a night watchmen of sorts? I have done similar work, and have had the same experiences with the wheelchair my job had on hand. A lot of TA people seem to, at least sometimes, have their desires aggravated by stress. Sean had an interesting blog about a therapy session which, to me at least, suggested that in some way this is, in part, a coping mechanism.

Regarding dreams…
There are many theories on the function and purpose of dreams, though no single theory is currently accepted (in America at least). One of the better backed theories suggests that one function of dreams is fantasy fulfillment.

I would posit that this is possibly what your dream was. Perhaps though you are disturbed due to your lack of familiarity with your desires. That’s my $ 0.02.

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