Comments on: Flashbacks http://transabled.org/thoughts/flashbacks.htm Talking about Body Integrity Identity Disorder - Just another disability! Fri, 05 Sep 2008 12:29:16 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Marie http://transabled.org/thoughts/flashbacks.htm#comment-648 Marie Sun, 28 Jan 2007 15:56:43 +0000 http://transabled.org/thoughts/flashbacks.htm#comment-648 You wrote: The thing is, I’ve started dreaming up plans again. Only there’s a difference. Whereas before I thought that I wouldn’t self-injure, I now know I won’t. Still, I plan, I plot, I think, I scheme, all in the few minutes between wake and sleep. ... During my more suicidal times I planned many methods of ending my life. I don't think I would ever but the act of /having a plan/, even if it wouldn't be used was very comforting. And on the topic of whether or not a transsexual is still a transsexual postoperatively: They are. They are incapable of reproduction in their gender and their chromosones are still mismatched. Surgery helps immensely but it isn't a cure-all. I don't know if this applies to transabled persons due to the nature of the dysphorias. You wrote: The thing is, I’ve started dreaming up plans again. Only there’s a difference. Whereas before I thought that I wouldn’t self-injure, I now know I won’t. Still, I plan, I plot, I think, I scheme, all in the few minutes between wake and sleep.

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During my more suicidal times I planned many methods of ending my life. I don’t think I would ever but the act of /having a plan/, even if it wouldn’t be used was very comforting.

And on the topic of whether or not a transsexual is still a transsexual postoperatively: They are. They are incapable of reproduction in their gender and their chromosones are still mismatched. Surgery helps immensely but it isn’t a cure-all. I don’t know if this applies to transabled persons due to the nature of the dysphorias.

]]> By: Sean http://transabled.org/thoughts/flashbacks.htm#comment-10 Sean Wed, 30 Aug 2006 20:12:14 +0000 http://transabled.org/thoughts/flashbacks.htm#comment-10 Hello Elizabeth, Thank you for your question, it isn't condescending or trite. It has, in fact, often been asked and I've discussed these issues on a semi regular basis here. I'll make a more detailed post that I'll post in the "Don't Miss" soon (running late for work now). But to quickly address your question, yes, I've done both drugs and therapy, several variations, to no noticable success. :( Hello Elizabeth, Thank you for your question, it isn’t condescending or trite. It has, in fact, often been asked and I’ve discussed these issues on a semi regular basis here. I’ll make a more detailed post that I’ll post in the “Don’t Miss” soon (running late for work now). But to quickly address your question, yes, I’ve done both drugs and therapy, several variations, to no noticable success. :(

]]> By: Elizabeth Elliott http://transabled.org/thoughts/flashbacks.htm#comment-9 Elizabeth Elliott Wed, 30 Aug 2006 16:21:24 +0000 http://transabled.org/thoughts/flashbacks.htm#comment-9 I apologise if this question has been addressed before, and I do not wish to sound trite or condescending, but here goes: have you ever been on/tried medications such as anti-depressants or anti-anxiety medications? I just wonder if it could relieve some of your stress and/or emotional suffering regarding your desires. I know that many people who deal with "transabilities" feel guilt or shame about it, and I feel for anyone who suffers this way. (Personally, I wish the world were more understanding of people "like you" as I feel most of the guilt probably stems from society's disapproval. As if it's any of society's business...)I have no idea if medications would help you, I just wonder if meds would at least calm the obsessive thoughts somewhat. I only ask this because I know they have helped me, but I have not experienced the same desires that you have. (I have been diagnosed with bi-polar disorder w/OCD components, just for the record.)Anyway, that's my question. And again, please don't think that I'm trying to "cure" you or that I have any ill-intentions whatsoever. It's just basic human curiosity. I apologise if this question has been addressed before, and I do not wish to sound trite or condescending, but here goes: have you ever been on/tried medications such as anti-depressants or anti-anxiety medications? I just wonder if it could relieve some of your stress and/or emotional suffering regarding your desires. I know that many people who deal with “transabilities” feel guilt or shame about it, and I feel for anyone who suffers this way. (Personally, I wish the world were more understanding of people “like you” as I feel most of the guilt probably stems from society’s disapproval. As if it’s any of society’s business…)I have no idea if medications would help you, I just wonder if meds would at least calm the obsessive thoughts somewhat. I only ask this because I know they have helped me, but I have not experienced the same desires that you have. (I have been diagnosed with bi-polar disorder w/OCD components, just for the record.)Anyway, that’s my question. And again, please don’t think that I’m trying to “cure” you or that I have any ill-intentions whatsoever. It’s just basic human curiosity.

]]> By: Sean http://transabled.org/thoughts/flashbacks.htm#comment-8 Sean Tue, 29 Aug 2006 20:19:54 +0000 http://transabled.org/thoughts/flashbacks.htm#comment-8 Renee, I'm glad to see you're still around, I thought you'd fallen off the face of the earth. I guess you'd just gotten tired of me instead :) Couple things: The reason you mention is not the only reason your method isn't possible/practical for me. Not by far. There's the matter of relationship. There's the fact that even if you were able to do it alone, I know I wouldn't. And many more. I might even write an entire post about it. As for my "whining", I was going to say I was sorry it annoyed you. But in fact, I'm not. This site is my journal (and a few other contributor's). I write for myself as much, if not more, than for others. It appears that many people find what I say, and how I say it, of positive value to them (according to the emails I regularly receive). So if my writing annoys you, the simple solution is, don't load up transabled.org in your web browser. Renee, I’m glad to see you’re still around, I thought you’d fallen off the face of the earth. I guess you’d just gotten tired of me instead :)

Couple things: The reason you mention is not the only reason your method isn’t possible/practical for me. Not by far. There’s the matter of relationship. There’s the fact that even if you were able to do it alone, I know I wouldn’t. And many more. I might even write an entire post about it.

As for my “whining”, I was going to say I was sorry it annoyed you. But in fact, I’m not. This site is my journal (and a few other contributor’s). I write for myself as much, if not more, than for others. It appears that many people find what I say, and how I say it, of positive value to them (according to the emails I regularly receive). So if my writing annoys you, the simple solution is, don’t load up transabled.org in your web browser.

]]> By: renee http://transabled.org/thoughts/flashbacks.htm#comment-7 renee Tue, 29 Aug 2006 16:11:46 +0000 http://transabled.org/thoughts/flashbacks.htm#comment-7 Sean, I've already told you several times how to acomplish what you want. My method is by far the safest anf surest way to get what you want. I know that your concern is that you state-provided medical insurance wouldn't cover a spinal injury of that type, but perhaps you should ask yourself if you really think you are entitled to insurance coverage for a disability you voluntarily acquire. If your answer to that question is yes, then instead of your constant whining about the situation, you should take more proactive steps to achieve your goal. Move to a different country where state-provided insurance would cover you. If it's really that important to you, you should be willing to do almost anything right? I mean, you've already shown that you're willing to do something definately life-threatening in an attempt to break your back. Just stop with the whining about it. It's old and tired. Yes everyone knows that this causes you great emotional pain, and lots of people have emotional pain from lots of different things. The ones who overcome it are the ones who take the necessary steps to do so, whatever they may be... even if that means moving to a different place. Sean, I’ve already told you several times how to acomplish what you want. My method is by far the safest anf surest way to get what you want. I know that your concern is that you state-provided medical insurance wouldn’t cover a spinal injury of that type, but perhaps you should ask yourself if you really think you are entitled to insurance coverage for a disability you voluntarily acquire. If your answer to that question is yes, then instead of your constant whining about the situation, you should take more proactive steps to achieve your goal. Move to a different country where state-provided insurance would cover you. If it’s really that important to you, you should be willing to do almost anything right? I mean, you’ve already shown that you’re willing to do something definately life-threatening in an attempt to break your back. Just stop with the whining about it. It’s old and tired. Yes everyone knows that this causes you great emotional pain, and lots of people have emotional pain from lots of different things. The ones who overcome it are the ones who take the necessary steps to do so, whatever they may be… even if that means moving to a different place.

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