http://transabled.org/thoughts/fears.htm Talking about Body Integrity Identity Disorder - Just another disability! Fri, 22 Aug 2008 03:24:43 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 http://transabled.org/thoughts/fears.htm#comment-45 Elizabeth Elliott Sat, 30 Sep 2006 03:39:13 +0000 http://transabled.org/thoughts/fears.htm#comment-45 Does she somehow take it as a personal affront to her as a woman/a person/an able-bodied person? (Feel free to email if this is something you'd rather not publisize. And please don't think I'm just being nosey. And please ignore spelling errors.) Does she somehow take it as a personal affront to her as a woman/a person/an able-bodied person? (Feel free to email if this is something you’d rather not publisize. And please don’t think I’m just being nosey. And please ignore spelling errors.)

]]> http://transabled.org/thoughts/fears.htm#comment-44 Sean Sat, 30 Sep 2006 03:12:20 +0000 http://transabled.org/thoughts/fears.htm#comment-44 Well, that might be the case if she was aware that I had transabled friends. And on the occasions where I have tried to include her, from the very beginning, I met resistance. Well, that might be the case if she was aware that I had transabled friends. And on the occasions where I have tried to include her, from the very beginning, I met resistance.

]]> http://transabled.org/thoughts/fears.htm#comment-43 Elizabeth Elliott Sat, 30 Sep 2006 02:13:22 +0000 http://transabled.org/thoughts/fears.htm#comment-43 You suggest that your partner accepts or "tolerates" your transability, but do you think, perhaps, in her own way that she feels excluded from this part of your life? I mean it is a rather large part of your daily existance and maybe your attempts to shelter her from it have in fact alienated her. Where once she may have been curious and even wanting to be a "part" of it (not as a pretender or anything, just a part of that part of your life) and now having been excluded, she feels nothing but contempt. Perhaps she feels that your "transabled friends" are more important to you, or have more in common with you. Even if there is no physical relationship among you and any of your trans pals, perhaps she feels you have an emotional bond with them that she will never have with you. Nothing hurts a woman more than that. Then again, I may be totally off-base. You suggest that your partner accepts or “tolerates” your transability, but do you think, perhaps, in her own way that she feels excluded from this part of your life? I mean it is a rather large part of your daily existance and maybe your attempts to shelter her from it have in fact alienated her. Where once she may have been curious and even wanting to be a “part” of it (not as a pretender or anything, just a part of that part of your life) and now having been excluded, she feels nothing but contempt. Perhaps she feels that your “transabled friends” are more important to you, or have more in common with you. Even if there is no physical relationship among you and any of your trans pals, perhaps she feels you have an emotional bond with them that she will never have with you. Nothing hurts a woman more than that.
Then again, I may be totally off-base.

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