Comments on: Dan’s Resolution http://transabled.org/thoughts/dans-resolution.htm Talking about Body Integrity Identity Disorder - Just another disability! Sat, 10 Jan 2009 01:37:58 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7-beta2 hourly 1 By: Claire http://transabled.org/thoughts/dans-resolution.htm/comment-page-1#comment-5227 Claire Mon, 30 Jul 2007 14:14:46 +0000 http://transabled.org/thoughts/dans-resolution.htm#comment-5227 <blockquote>She has a terrible habit of taking out her own problems on me by tearing me down emotionally. This triggers my BIID big time.</blockquote> I am exactly the same way. My husband and I have recently started couples' therapy and it has helped in many ways. We have a long way to go, but so far it's been good. I've also been seeing a therapist on working out other issues aside from the BIID in the hopes of improving my overall quality of life. It seems to be helping, only very slowly.

She has a terrible habit of taking out her own problems on me by tearing me down emotionally. This triggers my BIID big time.

I am exactly the same way. My husband and I have recently started couples’ therapy and it has helped in many ways. We have a long way to go, but so far it’s been good.

I’ve also been seeing a therapist on working out other issues aside from the BIID in the hopes of improving my overall quality of life. It seems to be helping, only very slowly.

]]> By: Rorschach http://transabled.org/thoughts/dans-resolution.htm/comment-page-1#comment-5213 Rorschach Sun, 29 Jul 2007 20:35:46 +0000 http://transabled.org/thoughts/dans-resolution.htm#comment-5213 Wow, you my sincere condolences, that is a lot of heavy stuff to deal with. I don't know what I can do to convince you not to self injure. If you do, for god's sake don't do it at the train tracks. Try and do it in the most sanitary and controlled way you can. It's quite easy for something like this to backfire. I wish the best of luck and hope that you can persevere through whatever life may throw at you in the future. Oh, and don't worry about the Wi-Fi that is becoming widely available much more quickly. Wow, you my sincere condolences, that is a lot of heavy stuff to deal with. I don’t know what I can do to convince you not to self injure. If you do, for god’s sake don’t do it at the train tracks. Try and do it in the most sanitary and controlled way you can. It’s quite easy for something like this to backfire.

I wish the best of luck and hope that you can persevere through whatever life may throw at you in the future.

Oh, and don’t worry about the Wi-Fi that is becoming widely available much more quickly.

]]> By: Sophie http://transabled.org/thoughts/dans-resolution.htm/comment-page-1#comment-5209 Sophie Sun, 29 Jul 2007 12:34:21 +0000 http://transabled.org/thoughts/dans-resolution.htm#comment-5209 hope it all works out for the better for you, it's never easy to try and put away one problem for the sake of another. hope it all works out for the better for you, it’s never easy to try and put away one problem for the sake of another.

]]> By: jen http://transabled.org/thoughts/dans-resolution.htm/comment-page-1#comment-5208 jen Sun, 29 Jul 2007 12:29:26 +0000 http://transabled.org/thoughts/dans-resolution.htm#comment-5208 I think these are well-reasoned resolutions. Having had PTSD myself, I know the terrible strain it puts you under. Kudos to you for going to see a counselor. Perhaps your wife feels threatened when your BIID 'acts up'. Maybe she feels like she'll be abandoned, that the focus of the relationship will be on you, not her? Just some armchair psychologizing. Best of luck to you. Strength and patience, too. I think these are well-reasoned resolutions. Having had PTSD myself, I know the terrible strain it puts you under. Kudos to you for going to see a counselor.

Perhaps your wife feels threatened when your BIID ‘acts up’. Maybe she feels like she’ll be abandoned, that the focus of the relationship will be on you, not her? Just some armchair psychologizing.

Best of luck to you. Strength and patience, too.

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