Comments on: BIID is taboo in this household. http://transabled.org/thoughts/biid-is-taboo-in-this-household.htm Talking about Body Integrity Identity Disorder - Just another disability! Sat, 10 Jan 2009 00:11:59 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7-beta2 hourly 1 By: jen http://transabled.org/thoughts/biid-is-taboo-in-this-household.htm/comment-page-1#comment-4180 jen Wed, 25 Apr 2007 23:03:44 +0000 http://transabled.org/uncategorized/biid-is-taboo-in-this-household.htm#comment-4180 It *is* hard to be a SO of a wheeler. There are places you just can't go - or you have to go alone, and the whole point in going there was to see something you could share in the first place. There are so many places, it's amazing and disheartening. Little antique shops? Usually a couple of steps up and no ramp. And even if you got in, no clear aisles because everything's all jammed in there together. This also seems to apply to used book stores and quiet little coffee bars. Even the grocery store can be fraught with peril. How do you do it, I thought the other day when I was grocery shopping? All the #*%&*% displays in the aisles, which aren't that big to begin with... I have a wheeler friend who says she never goes out between Thanksgiving and the day after New Year's because the shops are like an obstacle course. Well, I rant. But it can have its downsides, even for a dev. It *is* hard to be a SO of a wheeler. There are places you just can’t go - or you have to go alone, and the whole point in going there was to see something you could share in the first place.

There are so many places, it’s amazing and disheartening.

Little antique shops? Usually a couple of steps up and no ramp. And even if you got in, no clear aisles because everything’s all jammed in there together. This also seems to apply to used book stores and quiet little coffee bars.

Even the grocery store can be fraught with peril.

How do you do it, I thought the other day when I was grocery shopping? All the #*%&*% displays in the aisles, which aren’t that big to begin with…

I have a wheeler friend who says she never goes out between Thanksgiving and the day after New Year’s because the shops are like an obstacle course.

Well, I rant. But it can have its downsides, even for a dev.

]]> By: Sean http://transabled.org/thoughts/biid-is-taboo-in-this-household.htm/comment-page-1#comment-4177 Sean Wed, 25 Apr 2007 20:12:20 +0000 http://transabled.org/uncategorized/biid-is-taboo-in-this-household.htm#comment-4177 <blockquote cite="Claire">The thing about those “jokes” is this: they repeat them order to vocalize their displeasure in a way that allows them to do so without you being able to retaliate or get visibly upset.</blockquote> Wow! Thank you. I had never considered it that way, but it makes immense sense. Thanks for that.

The thing about those “jokes” is this: they repeat them order to vocalize their displeasure in a way that allows them to do so without you being able to retaliate or get visibly upset.

Wow! Thank you. I had never considered it that way, but it makes immense sense. Thanks for that.

]]> By: Claire http://transabled.org/thoughts/biid-is-taboo-in-this-household.htm/comment-page-1#comment-4172 Claire Wed, 25 Apr 2007 11:59:38 +0000 http://transabled.org/uncategorized/biid-is-taboo-in-this-household.htm#comment-4172 :o( It's funny. If it were *anything else* they'd be more understanding. Like if we had Bipolar Disorder. Or had actually had a spinal cord injury. They'd deal with it. But BIID, forget it, they'll never get it. The thing about those "jokes" is this: they repeat them order to vocalize their displeasure in a way that allows them to do so without you being able to retaliate or get visibly upset. Because if you do, they will just tell you they were joking and that you have no sense of humor. I have a sense of humor, but repeated jokes about issues that my husband knows are sensitive issues to me are nothing more than an attempt to dig at me and get a point across while leaving me helpless to respond. :o( It’s funny. If it were *anything else* they’d be more understanding. Like if we had Bipolar Disorder. Or had actually had a spinal cord injury. They’d deal with it. But BIID, forget it, they’ll never get it.

The thing about those “jokes” is this: they repeat them order to vocalize their displeasure in a way that allows them to do so without you being able to retaliate or get visibly upset. Because if you do, they will just tell you they were joking and that you have no sense of humor.

I have a sense of humor, but repeated jokes about issues that my husband knows are sensitive issues to me are nothing more than an attempt to dig at me and get a point across while leaving me helpless to respond.

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