Comments on: A year in review, sorta

By: Brice

Brice — Mon, 07 Jan 2008 23:15:41 +0000

@Dave, well use your crutches it will be easier to get things off your chest as your upper body gets stronger. Seriously, you’ve come a long way, your partner must really love and trust you, you’re a lucky guy.

By: Dave

Dave — Sun, 06 Jan 2008 06:26:07 +0000

well said Brice I totally agree.
my year went so fast till towards the end where my partner did reasearch and found its name BIID I told her about me which went down ok but hit her a few days later, then settled to the point of her buying me elbow crutches for christmas i actually feel quite good now that i have a load of my chest but it still doesnt fix it so will be hopefully rid of my damn leg soon

By: Brice

Brice — Sat, 05 Jan 2008 13:00:19 +0000

As I said to Claire the other day in a more private forum, Is there any way we can get away from the “pretender” terminology. I’m not pretending about anything when I use mobility aids, I’m taking care of symptoms. There must be a simple one-word way of saying that. To say I’m “pretending” implies that BIID is unreal. We all know it’s a very real impairment. My 2¢.

By: Jen

Jen — Sat, 05 Jan 2008 11:53:12 +0000

Lucien, if I might add? Work on strengthening your upper body for the day when you do go into a chair.

By: Sean

Sean — Fri, 04 Jan 2008 08:46:00 +0000

Lucien, remember, take baby steps :) You’re still living at home, you’re not yet 18. I wouldn’t even think about considering full time pretending for a while. Work on yourself, try to understand your feelings better, learn about both BIID and your desired impairment. These are all things you *can* do now, without every having put your butt in a wheelchair. Doing that work now will see you MILES ahead of where I was at by the time I turned 20. Don’t be in a rush to get a wheelchair now. As long as you live with parents that don’t accept or understand, you’d only be creating more aggravation for yourself.

By: Lucien

Lucien — Fri, 04 Jan 2008 08:15:20 +0000

Mine:
not much

-learned about what I am
-told my cousin quite a bit (i think all)

Ideas to come:
-full time pretender (gonna be hard)
-get wheelchair (*shudder* expensive)
-tell mom all I can handle

By: Sean

Sean — Thu, 03 Jan 2008 01:14:57 +0000

Good stuff! Keep ‘em coming :)

By: Gordo

Gordo — Thu, 03 Jan 2008 00:27:02 +0000

Mine:

-I purchased my first wheelchair
-went out for my first-ever wheeling trip (turned out to be the first of three before the year was done)
-finally joined the online BIID community
-told someone else about BIID (not including online acquaintances)
-started seeking counselling to help deal with the feelings from BIID
-started seriously considering my future as a wheeler (ie. whether to go full-time, if I’m ready to tell others, etc.)

By: Claire

Claire — Mon, 31 Dec 2007 05:43:03 +0000

Mine:

- told my mom about BIID
- flew as a wheeler
- wheeled at an amusement park
- took part in two major studies on BIID
- became a full-time pretender (I still can’t believe that one)

I too wish everyone a happy new year and your dearest wishes.