Comments on: Revelation at the mall http://transabled.org/early-memories/revelation-at-the-mall.htm Talking about Body Integrity Identity Disorder - Just another disability! Sat, 11 Feb 2012 05:18:49 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.1 By: Ronald http://transabled.org/early-memories/revelation-at-the-mall.htm/comment-page-1#comment-11657 Ronald Sat, 10 Nov 2007 16:48:06 +0000 http://transabled.org/early-memories/revelation-at-the-mall.htm#comment-11657 I used to find myself doing exactly the same thing. Now I understand that this is another common trait or symptom of BIID. I refrain from doing this now that I understand myself so much more. I only steal a glance when the opportunity arises, not really any different than any other attractive lady. The fascination is now just an appreciation of a special beauty. As we are able to deal with our own BIID, perhaps we are able to stop living vicariously through others. Also, from this blog and responses, I see a very definate separation between physical attraction to disability and BIID. A few weeks ago I saw a woman musician at a concert, it became apparent only by watching her movements that she had a prosthesis. I thought, "she is really talented". 10 years ago, I would have wanted to know if she was single. Perhaps this is a sign of maturity, or as my wife says, I am simply no longer ashamed of all of this. I used to find myself doing exactly the same thing. Now I understand that this is another common trait or symptom of BIID. I refrain from doing this now that I understand myself so much more. I only steal a glance when the opportunity arises, not really any different than any other attractive lady. The fascination is now just an appreciation of a special beauty. As we are able to deal with our own BIID, perhaps we are able to stop living vicariously through others. Also, from this blog and responses, I see a very definate separation between physical attraction to disability and BIID.

A few weeks ago I saw a woman musician at a concert, it became apparent only by watching her movements that she had a prosthesis. I thought, “she is really talented”. 10 years ago, I would have wanted to know if she was single.

Perhaps this is a sign of maturity, or as my wife says, I am simply no longer ashamed of all of this.

]]> By: Claire http://transabled.org/early-memories/revelation-at-the-mall.htm/comment-page-1#comment-11625 Claire Fri, 09 Nov 2007 13:53:03 +0000 http://transabled.org/early-memories/revelation-at-the-mall.htm#comment-11625 And that said, *now* I would absolutely not follow anyone around in a mall, nor would I encourage anyone else to do so. At the time, I had no idea that what I had was a mental illness. All I knew was that I was fascinated, didn't really realize what I was doing. We can't help the way we feel but we CAN help how we act, and I don't think that kind of behavior is appropriate. Just a heads-up to anyone else who finds themselves in that situation. Be respectful above all else. And that said, *now* I would absolutely not follow anyone around in a mall, nor would I encourage anyone else to do so. At the time, I had no idea that what I had was a mental illness. All I knew was that I was fascinated, didn’t really realize what I was doing. We can’t help the way we feel but we CAN help how we act, and I don’t think that kind of behavior is appropriate. Just a heads-up to anyone else who finds themselves in that situation. Be respectful above all else.

]]> By: Rorschach http://transabled.org/early-memories/revelation-at-the-mall.htm/comment-page-1#comment-11611 Rorschach Fri, 09 Nov 2007 09:21:58 +0000 http://transabled.org/early-memories/revelation-at-the-mall.htm#comment-11611 It's really creepy to me how similar so many of these experiences are to my own. I really can't put into words how many times I have felt EXACTLY the same way. It’s really creepy to me how similar so many of these experiences are to my own. I really can’t put into words how many times I have felt EXACTLY the same way.

]]> By: Ian Hughes http://transabled.org/early-memories/revelation-at-the-mall.htm/comment-page-1#comment-1311 Ian Hughes Wed, 21 Feb 2007 19:51:35 +0000 http://transabled.org/early-memories/revelation-at-the-mall.htm#comment-1311 I remember when I was a kid my father brought home some of his friends from work. One of them was one-legged and had a very small stump and used just one crutch. I couldn't stop watching him and was fasciinated by how agile he was. That was probably the moment when I wanted to be disabled. The feeling never left me and I doubt whether it ever will. You just have to find ways to live with it. I remember when I was a kid my father brought home some of his friends from work. One of them was one-legged and had a very small stump and used just one crutch. I couldn’t stop watching him and was fasciinated by how agile he was. That was probably the moment when I wanted to be disabled. The feeling never left me and I doubt whether it ever will. You just have to find ways to live with it.

]]> By: Sean http://transabled.org/early-memories/revelation-at-the-mall.htm/comment-page-1#comment-1279 Sean Mon, 19 Feb 2007 23:33:16 +0000 http://transabled.org/early-memories/revelation-at-the-mall.htm#comment-1279 I had a very similar experience myself. I caught a very pretty redhead, wheeling by at a local mall. I followed her for a few minutes, and then realised I wasn't so much attracted to her as wanted to be her. She wasn't unattractive, but I wasn't turned on by her because of her disability. That was the moment where I clearly realised I wasn't a devotee. I had a very similar experience myself. I caught a very pretty redhead, wheeling by at a local mall. I followed her for a few minutes, and then realised I wasn’t so much attracted to her as wanted to be her. She wasn’t unattractive, but I wasn’t turned on by her because of her disability.

That was the moment where I clearly realised I wasn’t a devotee.

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