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I feel cheated

by Sean - 27 November 2005

I feel cheated. I feel I signed up for a deal and I’m not getting what was promised. Well, I guess that’s true of most people at one time or another, but I’m talking about my relationship. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not all bad, not by a long shot. But there is some stuff that’s definitely less than optimal.

Arrogance of medical community

by Sean - 25 November 2005

I am continually amazed at the arrogance of the medical professionals when it comes to make judgement calls about quality of life for other people. It’s been shown that approximately 85% ER doctors and nurses judge the potential quality of life of SCI patient to be horrid, whereas about 80% of quads 5 years post injury think their quality of life is equal or better than before their injury. And this impacts on us transabled folks.

Can’t speak about it

by Sean - 23 November 2005

In a relationship, you’re supposed to be able to discuss the things that are bothering you. I think it’s fair to say that my transabled feelings are bothering me, but I dont’ feel I’m able to open up and share that with my partner. It’s hard enough for me to talk face to face about heavy topics, but feeling reticence on the other party’s side, that just makes it plain impossible for me.

Is there anything else?

by Sean - 21 November 2005

As one does, I was chatting on IM with an online friend. Before long, the friend said to me:

The only thing I hear about you is how depressed you are about not being a para… Isn’t there anything else ticking over in your mind?

And I had to stop for a moment, and think about my response.

How young is too young?

by Sean -

Not egg foo-yung, but almost, and that’s certainly how my grey matter feels about it at times! Interacting with Sophie is certainly giving me much to think about. It’s not bad stuff either. In this case, I’m led to reconsider my stance on young people seriously thinking about self-injury. I’m not fully in favour, just as I’m not generally fully in favour of anyone just going ahead and self-injuring. But I’m not as diametrically opposed as I used to be either.